Thursday, January 26, 2006

ever so personal list to accomplish before I die

sanfrancisco… COMPLETE
marathon- or long walk
ocean dipping with skinny involvement
ballet lessons again
BFA Art
Teach art to the 5 year old population
Forgive
Be a mom
Apple pie- just once
Garden with carrots
Deck off bedroom
Porch –big
Sabastian – a dog that doesn’t know how to bark
Visit the fatherless and the widows in their affliction
Vancouver island for a month or a year…COMPLETE
Singing lessons or piano –whichever seems more promising
Blow bubbles
Realize I am lucky
Ride a horse twice a week for 6 months
Across Canada…COMPLETE
north yukon. Nwt
fire pit in backyard
photography- do a show—white picket fences, that are decrepid
wall mural
have a breakfast party- invite handicapped people
speak spell sing spanish
iceland on a donkey
moss garden
own a large gong- for all the shows that come and go
count to 10 instead 3 when I am impatient…IN PRACTICE
own a 6 toed cat
have large tree house in my backyard- many big trees with berries—or maybe just raspberry bushes
do a perfect cartwheel
convention in france
remember those that pass by
life is fragile
remove warts
hug more
its all about the VW van
or red pickup truck
put faith where doubt reigns
don’t take self too seriously
remain an average lake
not accept position #64
somehow make yummy chocolate cookies that are good for you
own a car and have insurance in Alberta…IN PRACTICE
rollerblade ever
have a battery operated toothbrush that has levels one to ten
trust
do what I say or say less or something
do not fear physics…COMPLETE
lose concern for the judgment of others
eat donairs from A and A with sharmilla
eat shark- if it is an option
have a craft room
wear a hat to a wedding(not baseball)
learn how to use the mini yellow pages
have a good long distance plan
have mosquito netting over a bed in my house…IN PRACTICE
learn which gut to trust
write a childrens book
scubadive- where there are rainbow fish or colorful(whatever they are called)
canoe
know the rest of God( rest as in calm/peace)
empire state…COMPLETE
liberty the statue…COMPLETE
inca
taj mahal
direct a play
perform once more
entire pottery set with forks…COMPLETE (REALIZE THAT CUTLERY FROM CLAY IS IMPOSSIBLE)
lawn furniture sculptor replicating naked ones
bahamas
see a penguin- not in a zoo
be an aunt
dress up as a cowboy and attend the calgary stampede
bake a big cake—like really big---the jump out of kind
steak in texas
grande canyon camping.
A night at sea...with a life jacket or water wings
Know a vacant beach and pretend its mine
Give time and money and smiles
Drink tea with Thyra
Be a friend
Be a daughter who is an example
Remember that we decide how others treat us
Have a healthy mom
Grow long eye lashes miraculously
Be on a butterfly farm
tap dance
spend an hour in an elevator.........(note dots)
These next are brought to you via Thyra— ( MY GIRLFRIENDS DAUGHTER)
see a lady bug and collect them
pick lots of flowers
paint with thyra
get married and have kids
see one of Thyras toys I never saw before
make lots of money
have a nice job
see everything I wish
babysit Thyra
buy a beautiful dress.
appreciate the view of the army surplus store. (NSIDE JOKE WITH MY MOM)

New and Improved Updated List of 25 things to do before I die.

1. Long Hair
2. Purple Suede Booties
3. Paris again for more than a day
4. Really Rad Trustworthy Good Friends
5. Find a job that really works for me
6. Find a man who really works for me
7. Lose flying fear
8. God in all choices
9. Learn how to do my part for others
10. Learn how to do my part for the environment
11. Lose fear of cooking
12. Love being a woman
13. Love my age
14. Lose unproductive stress
15. Live away for real
16. Paint for real
17. Really nice lingerie
18. Get married and have a great big wonderful wedding
19. Have beautiful strong babies
20. Get another degree
21. Work Out
22. Do not dwell in dark places
23. See Miracles Everywhere
24. Never not be me, from the inside out
25. Never be numb

Creative Arts Mental Health Wellness Centre

Theodore Roosevelt:

Theodore Roosevelt:

It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat."

The welfare of each of us is dependent fundamentally upon the welfare of all of us."

The one thing I want to leave my children is an honorable name." "It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed."

"We of an older generation can get along with what we have, though with growing hardship; but in your full manhood and womanhood you will want what nature once so bountifully supplied and man so thoughtlessly destroyed; and because of that want you will reproach us, not for what we have used, but for what we have wasted...So any nation which in its youth lives only for the day, reaps without sowing, and consumes without husbanding, must expect the penalty of the prodigal whose labor could with difficulty find him the bare means of life."

Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to take rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, because they live in the gray twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat."

"A healthy-minded boy should feel hearty contempt for the coward and even more hearty indignation for the boy who bullies girls or small boys, or tortures animals."..."What we have a right to expect of the American boy is that he shall turn out to be a good American man."

If a man does not have an ideal and try to live up to it, then he becomes a mean, base and sordid creature, no matter how successful."

"I have a perfect horror of words that are not backed up by deeds


The object of government is the welfare of the people." "Conservation means development as much as it does protection. I recognize the right and duty of this generation to develop and use the natural resources of our land; but I do not recognize the right to waste them, or to rob, by wasteful use, the generations that come after us."

There are two things that I want you to make up your minds to: first, that you are going to have a good time as long as you live - I have no use for the sour-faced man - and next, that you are going to do something worthwhile, that you are going to work hard and do the things you set out to do."

"I have never in my life envied a human being who led an easy life; I have envied a great many people who led difficult lives and led them well."

The worst of all fears is the fear of living."

"There were all kinds of things I was afraid of at first, ranging from grizzly bears to 'mean' horses and gun-fighters; but by acting as if I was not afraid I gradually ceased to be afraid."

"No man can lead a public career really worth leading, no man can act with rugged independence in serious crises, nor strike at great abuses, nor afford to make powerful and unscrupulous foes, if he is himself vulnerable in his private character


It is true of the Nation, as of the individual, that the greatest doer must also be a great dreamer.

There is not in all America a more dangerous trait than the deification of mere smartness unaccompanied by any sense of moral responsibility."

Alone of human beings the good and wise mother stands on a plane of equal honor with the bravest soldier; for she has gladly gone down to the brink of the chasm of darkness to bring back the children in whose hands rests the future of the years. "

Martin Luther King

Martin Luther King Nobel Peace Prize Acceptance Award Speech

I accept this award today with an abiding faith in America and an audacious faith in the future of mankind. I refuse to accept despair as the final response to the ambiguities of history. I refuse to accept the idea that the "isness" of man's present nature makes him morally incapable of reaching up for the eternal "oughtness" that forever confronts him. I refuse to accept the idea that man is mere flotsom and jetsom in the river of life, unable to influence the unfolding events which surround him. I refuse to accept the view that mankind is so tragically bound to the starless midnight of racism and war that the bright daybreak of peace and brotherhood can never become a reality.

I refuse to accept the cynical notion that nation after nation must spiral down a militaristic stairway into the hell of thermonuclear destruction. I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality. This is why right temporarily defeated is stronger than evil triumphant. I believe that even amid today's motor bursts and whining bullets, there is still hope for a brighter tomorrow. I believe that wounded justice, lying prostrate on the blood-flowing streets of our nations, can be lifted from this dust of shame to reign supreme among the children of men. I have the audacity to believe that peoples everywhere can have three meals a day for their bodies, education and culture for their minds, and dignity, equality and freedom for their spirits. I believe that what self-centered men have torn down men other-centered can build up. I still believe that one day mankind will bow before the altars of God and be crowned triumphant over war and bloodshed, and nonviolent redemptive good will proclaim the rule of the land. "And the lion and the lamb shall lie down together and every man shall sit under his own vine and fig tree and none shall be afraid." I still believe that We Shall overcome!
I think Alfred Nobel would know what I mean when I say that I accept this award in the spirit of a curator of some precious heirloom which he holds in trust for its true owners - all those to whom beauty is truth and truth beauty - and in whose eyes the beauty of genuine brotherhood and peace is more precious than diamonds or silver or gold.



Like an unchecked cancer, hate corrodes the personality and eats away its vital unity. Hate destroys a man's sense of values and his objectivity. It causes him to describe the beautiful as ugly and the ugly as beautiful, and to confuse the true with the false and the false with the true.

Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.

We must learn to live together as brothers or perish together as fools.

When you are right you cannot be too radical; when you are wrong, you cannot be too conservative.


The hope of a secure and livable world lies with disciplined nonconformists who are dedicated to justice, peace and brotherhood.

The good neighbor looks beyond the external accidents and discerns those inner qualities that make all men human and, therefore, brothers.
I submit to you that if a man hasn't discovered something he will die for, he isn't fit to live.

Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.


Our scientific power has outrun our spiritual power. We have guided missiles and misguided men.

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy

A nation or civilization that continues to produce soft-minded men purchases its own spiritual death on the installment plan.


A right delayed is a right denied.

Almost always, the creative dedicated minority has made the world better.

Change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle.
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.


Even if I knew that tomorrow the world would go to pieces, I would still plant my apple tree.

Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.

Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it. Hatred darkens life; love illuminates it.
He who passively accepts evil is as much involved in it as he who helps to perpetrate it. He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it.


History will have to record that the greatest tragedy of this period of social transition was not the strident clamor of the bad people, but the appalling silence of the good people.

Human progress is neither automatic nor inevitable... Every step toward the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concern of dedicated individuals.
If a man is called to be a streetsweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music, or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, here lived a great streetsweeper who did his job well.


If physical death is the price that I must pay to free my white brothers and sisters from a permanent death of the spirit, then nothing can be more redemptive.

Never succumb to the temptation of bitterness

Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.

Rarely do we find men who willingly engage in hard, solid thinking. There is an almost universal quest for easy answers and half-baked solutions. Nothing pains some people more than having to think.
Shallow understanding from people of good will is more frustrating than absolute misunderstanding from people of ill will.

The hottest place in Hell is reserved for those who remain neutral in times of great moral conflict.

There is nothing more tragic than to find an individual bogged down in the length of life, devoid of breadth.
We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.

Martin Luther King Junior

nelson mandela

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.

For to be free is not merely to cast off one's chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it.

The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.
If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner.

Let there be work, bread, water and salt for all.

Money won't create success, the freedom to make it will.

There can be no keener revelation of a society's soul than the way in which it treats its children.

There is no easy walk to freedom anywhere, and many of us will have to pass through the valley of the shadow of death again and again before we reach the mountaintop of our desires.

We must use time wisely and forever realize that the time is always ripe to do right.

As I have said, the first thing is to be honest with yourself. You can never have an impact on society if you have not changed yourself... Great peacemakers are all people of integrity, of honesty, but humility

No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.

True reconciliation does not consist in merely forgetting the past.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most. We ask oursleves, "Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and famous?" Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in all of us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our prescence automatically liberates others.”
Pretty women wonder where my secret lies. I'm not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size But when I start to tell them, They think I'm telling lies. I say, It's in the reach of my arms, The span of my hips, The stride of my step, The curl of my lips. I'm a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That's me.
I walk into a room Just as cool as you please, And to a man, The fellows stand or Fall down on their knees. Then they swarm around me, A hive of honey bees. I say, It's the fire in my eyes, And the flash of my teeth, the swing in my waist, And the joy in my feet. I'm a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That's me.
Men themselves have wondered what they see in me. They try so much But they can't touch My inner mystery. When I try to show them, They say they still can't see. I say, It's in the arch of my back, The sun of my smile, The ride of my breasts, The grace of my style. I'm a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That's me.
Now you understand just why my head's not bowed. I don't shout or jump about Or have to talk real loud. When you see me passing, It ought to make you proud. I say, It's in the click of my heels, The bend of my hair, the palm of my hand, the need for my care. 'Cause I'm a woman Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That's me. Lying, thinking
Last night
How to find my soul a home
Where water is not thirsty
And bread loaf is not stone
I came up with one thing
And I don't believe I'm wrong
That nobody,
But nobody
Can make it out here alone.
Alone, all alone
Nobody, but nobody
Can make it out here alone.
There are some millionaires
With money they can't use
Their wives run round like banshees
Their children sing the blues
They've got expensive doctors
To cure their hearts of stone.
But nobody
No, nobody
Can make it out here alone.
Alone, all alone
Nobody, but nobody
Can make it out here alone.
Now if you listen closely
I'll tell you what I know
Storm clouds are gathering
The wind is gonna blow
The race of man is suffering
And I can hear the moan,
'Cause nobody,
But nobody
Can make it out here alone.
Alone, all alone
Nobody, but nobody
Can make it out here alone.


Still I Rise

by Maya Angelou

You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I'll rise.


Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
'Cause I walk like I've got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.


Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I'll rise.


Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops,
Weakened by my soulful cries?


Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don't you take it awful hard
'Cause I laugh like I've got gold mines
Diggin' in my own backyard.


You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I'll rise.


Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I've got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?


Out of the huts of history's shame
I rise
Up from a past that's rooted in pain
I rise
I'm a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.


Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that's wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.

Wednesday, January 25, 2006

the firm

FYI
Basic Common Knowledge Fundamentals for the Office
(written with conviction and honest concern)

It is illegal to hire on the bases of sex, ethnicity, color, religion, or attractiveness.
equality rights protect people from discrimination based on race, country of origin, religion, colour, sex, age and mental or physical disability.
It is not acceptable to talk about 'white people' ‘black people’
Equal pay
6(1) Where employees of both sexes perform the same or substantially similar work for an employer in an establishment the employer shall pay the employees at the same rate of pay.
Discrimination re employment practices
7(1) No employer shall
(a) refuse to employ or refuse to continue to employ any person, or
(b) discriminate against any person with regard to employment or any term or condition of employment,
because of the race, religious beliefs, colour, gender, physical disability, mental disability, age, ancestry, place of origin, marital status, source of income or family status of that person or of any other person.
(2) Subsection (1) as it relates to age and marital status does not affect the operation of any bona fide retirement or pension plan or the terms or conditions of any bona fide group or employee insurance plan.
It is illegal to ask someone to come in to work for less than 3 hours and to pay them for less than 3 hours.
It is illegal to close an office for a week and not pay your staff for the week that it is closed, under the pretense that the office is not actually closed, but encouraging (forcing/ pressuring) your employees not to work.
It is illegal to not pay overtime after 44 hours a week:
Overtime hours
21 Overtime hours in respect of a work week are
(a) the total of an employee’s hours of work in excess of 8 on each work day in the work week, or
(b) an employee’s hours of work in excess of 44 hours in the work week,
whichever is greater, and, if the hours in clauses (a) and (b) are the same, the overtime hours are those common hours.
It is unacceptable as an employer to discuss employees with other employees in a degrading way or to speak and swear in a loud abrasive manor about a staff member that you the employer deem as unworthy of respect.
It is wrong to assume that if someone calls in sick that it is because they have no integrity and are telling a lie.
It is wrong to assume that if someone is not sneezing/coughing that they are not sick. It is unwise to forget that people may have other physical concerns ie. migraines/ PMS/ Cancer/ Stress/ Family issues/ Diarrhea.
It is politically incorrect to whisper about an employee.
It is politically incorrect and wrong to ask one employee to spy and record information about another employee, namely their superior.
It is wrong to say things like “let’s make it look like white people work here”.
It is wrong to not give an employee the benefit of Notice of Termination and/or Pay in Lieu when the company decides to restructure. It is wrong to try and phase/pressure them out instead.
It is not politically correct to discuss your financial status and/or toys/investments/cars/homes/shopping malls to clients/staff/tenants etc.
It is embarrassing for the Boss to complain about the cost of paper napkins at board meetings.
It is inefficient to have inconsistency with decision making. ie. photocopy machines/party planning/invite lists/ hiring/firing/purchasing. It leads to distrust for employees trying to work within the roving framework.
It is not politically correct to discuss your present or future employees’ marital status in such a way that you undermine the character of the said member.
It is wrong to make derogatory comments about women in front and around your female employees.
It is wrong to sift through your employees private things, ie. a book labeled with their name on it.
It is unacceptable as an employer to drop paper on the floor in front of your receptionist and expect that she pick it up, it is unacceptable to continue to do this with the expectation that she will pick it up. It is unacceptable after she asks you the Boss to stop this behavior that you tell her that she needs the exercise.
It is wrong to hire someone under false pretenses ie. job description.
It is wrong once someone gives their notice to leave your company to than make comments that you are going to work them to the bone etc.
It is wrong to make comments to employees that you wish people applying for a job would send their picture with their resume.
A company of 20 plus staff should have staff meetings at least every 6 months, staff should have incentive to commit and continue with their company especially when responsibilities increase and other staff leave.